“Through our thoughts and words, we are constantly giving operating instructions to trillions of cells in our bodies and minds, thereby creating our reality. By being observant, we can change our present and our future “(quotation translated from the Vedas of 7000 yrs. back). Subsequently other civilizations, countries and cultures have discovered and highlighted the immense benefits of using positive affirmations for transforming lives. Many modern-day scientists and psychologists are also conducting detailed studies and have verified that positive affirmations can overwrite negative belief systems within our subconscious minds and by using affirmations we can improve our thought process, our behavior and increase productivity and happiness tremendously.

While growing up you acquired many limiting thoughts and beliefs, and many negative thoughts are hidden deep inside your subconscious mind. To improve and change you must overwrite all limiting beliefs with powerful, positive thoughts and affirmations. Refer to these positive affirmations below and read these out softly every day before going to bed and upon awakening in the morning:

Say these beneficial affirmationsclarly, softly (regardless of what may be happening in your life):

I am successful, I am confident, I am strong, I am radiant, intelligent and smart, Every day in every way I am getting better and better, All that I need is within me right now, I keep motivated through the day and every day, I am an unstoppable force of nature, I am living with abundance, I make correct efforts and good things come to me, working is fun &I easily learn new things , I am rising above thoughts that  try to make me angry or afraid or sad, Today is a fantastic day, I am pushing out negativity from my life and pulling in positivity, I am filled with focus and concentration, I am not pushed by problems but led by my dreams, I am grateful with all that I have in my life, I am independent and self-sufficient, I can do whatever I want in life and I will succeed. Keep on reading positive affirmations for at least 21 days (about 3 weeks) and notice benefits by feeling more positive, self-confident, strengthened, empowered to strive towards your goals smoothly.

The most fundamental of all skills are personal life skills which are related to self-care and staying healthy in body and mind. These skills helps you manage the activities and challenges of everyday life effectively. Although most of the personal skills are intangible, several scientific empirical studies have validated their effectiveness. . Practicing these skills can improve all areas of your life, from your work to your relationships. They allow you to handle things wisely, from processing your emotions more effectively to interacting with others. As people with strong personal skills are aware of themselves and their surroundings, they are likely to lead a happy life. Some of the important personal life skills are given below:


A)    Positive Thinking ( Optimism)
Whatever human minds dwell upon expands, therefore think about joyful events, happy thoughts, positive outcomes regardless of what happened or whatever is happening right now.  Release negative thoughts, pushing them out of your consciousness and memory. Practice thinking positive, happy events, small achievements, and good memories.  Optimistic attitude  motivates you towards happy, healthy successful living.

B)    Gratitude
Be thankful daily for everything you have,  such as being alive, having water, food, clothes, shelter, personal possessions, and  friends and family. There are hundreds of things to be grateful about. The more you are grateful, the more goodness and abundance you will continue to receive.

C)    Forgiveness
Many of us continue to remember negative thoughts and incidents which may have been caused either by us or by others or the combination of both.  Negative thoughts pollute and poison our minds. and affect our physical and mental well-being.Therefore, it is important to learn from past incidents, let go, move on, and forgive yourself and others for your mental health and well-being. Regularly practice forgiveness  to regain energy, purpose, and motivation for the future.

D) Persistence/Perseverence/Determination
Persistence is the topmost proven attribute for  achieving goals and success. Persistence even beats intelligence and talents for healthy, happy, successful living. Practice daily to build persistence as a skill even when you hit difficult hurdles and the going gets tough. During such times pause for a while, gather hope, determination & muster courage to push yourself forward. Determination has taken living beings across continents,  to the moon and hopefully to mars by 2030.  Always remember: Never, Never, Never Give up!

E) Self-Confidence/Self-Esteem
Whenever you feel small as compared to the unending Universe, think that your body is made up of trillions of cells and requires hydrogen, oxygen, carbon, nitrogen for functioning, the same elements which created the stars and the galaxies. To stay motivated,  read motivational stories, watch  motivationalvideos and carry on with your efforts with redoubled determination. Always remember if you think you can, you will.


Have fun

In India, it is common for older people to urge younger people to study hard, work a lot, be courteous, and whatnot. You know what I am talking about. Let me add one more item to this long list.

Have some fun! Enjoy your life!

You are young. This is the time when it is easier to have some fun in your life.

I know you have to work hard to achieve your aims. And you may be short of time since you probably have other responsibilities. Still, find some time to have fun, specially with friends. The friends you have now will last you your lifetime. At this age, fun is still cheap. One of the FEA students told me that he likes to go with his friends on bicycle day trips to nearby places. Or, you can just play card games together.

But, don’t overdo it. Keep a balance between your responsibilities and fun. This balance will make it easier for you to meet your responsibilities.

Do some learn-fun

What is learn-fun? Is this even a proper word? No, it’s a word that I made up. It means fun that also helps you learn. I am talking here about logical thinking, not learning a subject. Suppose you play chess. Then, it’s fun for you. It also forces you to think logically on your own – which is something many of us miss out in our schooling.

These days, my learn-fun activity is solving Sudoku puzzles. These puzzles do have numbers, but you don’t need any mathematics to solve them. Just logical thinking. They come in different levels of difficulty. I can generally solve puzzles rated as Medium difficulty in 20 minutes. I am able to solve only about 20% of the Hard puzzles I try – but I keep trying. Once, I got the solution to a Hard puzzle after trying to solve it for three days.

A “Hard” Sudoku puzzle

Why do I keep trying to solve puzzles that I find hard to solve? Mainly because it keeps forcing me to think logically. And, of course, when I do crack a Hard puzzle, I feel like I have climbed Mt. Everest!

For learn-fun, use your smartphone

Fortunately, learn-fun is cheap these days if you have a smartphone. There are so many free apps for chess and Sudoku. And there are so many other free logic-based free apps available. You have plenty of free choices.

And, you can go beyond logic to improve your command of English words. In the old days, people, including me, used to do crosswords – just for fun. These days, one of my friends plays the free version of a game called Wordscapes. You have to make words from some 5-10 letters they give you, and the words have to fit into a format.

What type of fun? Which type of learn-fun? That’s up to you.

Work vs. fun or work-fun?

When you work, your employer pays you. They pay because most people don’t like to work, and workers want money if they are going to work. And then they try to have some fun or rest on their days off. It’s work vs. fun.

Long ago, a wise man said, “Choose a job you love and you will never have to work a day in your life.” This is work as fun, or work-fun.

Many of us are not so lucky – we have to take the job we get, and not the job we want or love. However, you have many more choices than my generation (people born before 1960) did because India has changed.

So, you should consider choosing a career for yourself that has a good balance between work and fun, and possibly leaning towards work-fun.

This type of career will make you more productive at work. And you will avoid work-related stress, which means you and your family will be happier!

“I don’t know what I am doing”. “I am not sure where I’m heading”. I have no clue what to do next”. Those are just a few examples of how we feel when we are uncertain about our next move and the only thing we think is “I am stuck”. This is that feeling when you don’t know how to get a move on it. I felt that way many  times in my life when I reached a point where my progression stalled. I wished that someone who was wiser and more experienced would just tell me what to do next. To be honest, I did not always have that “someone” to reach out to ask for help or advice. With time I realized that sometimes you’ve to make your way without much help from others to gain something you need. Every effort teaches you important lessons and prepares you for the next storm.